Ok. So it’s Thursday. This blog is about grace right? 🙂 Sorry for the day late on the post. Been a busy week.
On Tuesday (also a day late), we kicked off this week’s theme of common parental notions that might need to be affirmed or maybe debunked by considering the effectiveness of a mom or dad asserting to their kids that they should stop bad behavior because they know better. Today, we consider this common parental notion:
If you want your kid to be Christian in college, keep him away from all non-Christian influence until then.
Can I just go ahead and say that this parental notion is too common AND is about as rational as the notion that keeping your son shodded with Air Jordan’s will ensure his lottery draft pick status to the NBA.
Curiosity killed the cat. And the fragile belief system of a lot of college-aged, professed Christians.
Why? Not because they had never been exposed to some of the temptations. But rather because they had never been coached through them. It seems to me that too few Christian parents are intentional about discipling their children through how to wisely consider temptations they face as well as how to rely on the Spirit rather than their own strength. In my estimation, Christian parents spend more intentionality on sheltering their kids than they do discipling them.
No wonder the church sends to college so many moralists rather than disciple-makers.
One dad told me one time that he wanted to put his kids in situations as they grew up that would foster a hunger and thirst for the Lord. This assertion was made in the context of his defending the Christian environments in which he and his wife had worked hard to place their kids. I asked him to consider how hungry they would be if left at a buffet? How thirsty they would be if kept beside a fountain drink dispenser? Not very hungry in contrast to being in cultures where there might be people who are famished spiritually that they could feed the love of Jesus. Not very thirsty in contrast to being in settings where there might be people who are dying of thirst spiritually to whom they could share some Living Water.
The concept of parental coaching comes to mind.
May we walk WITH our kids, alongside them, through some darkness before we send them into it. And may we be close by when we first send them into it so that we might together process the choices they are facing. And so that they might ask us the hard struggles we walked through as kids, confessing our failures and reminding them of the grace in which we stand.
Type at you tomorrow…