Parent in an environment that welcomes confession and offers restoration rather than an environment of demanding expectation and exasperating correction.

[ sorry for the day delay on this post. was traveling with family yesterday and had forgotten to schedule the post. ]

What made David a man after God’s heart? It wasn’t his stone-slinging accuracy. It wasn’t his rugged good looks. It wasn’t his song-writing ability. It wasn’t his passion to build a worship house for God. And it certainly wasn’t his charming seduction skills or cunning deception activity. So what was it?

It was how quickly he would admit he was wrong. It was how humbly he would agree with God that He was right. That is called confession. And it emerges from a contrite heart.

I asked some of my French-speaking fellow pastors from Montreal one time how to say “contrite” en Francais. They had no idea. It was a great example of how rare that characteristic is in people. And a great example of how essential it is that we cultivate for it in the hearts of our children.

I would suggest that it is absolutely crucial that our homes be environments where confession is welcomed and forgiveness is free and restoration is expedited.

Demanding expectations are heavy weights for a child to carry. What makes it worse is our demanding expectations stifle expectancy in parent-child relationships, which is the picture of exasperation. It typically leads to exasperating correction methods and parents spending an enormous amount of energy correcting their behavior rather than an intentional amount of energy shepherding their hearts.

The presence of confession and reconciliation and restoration is a clear evidence of the Gospel alive among us (2nd Corinthians 5). And isn’t that what we want in our homes? Isn’t that what we want our parenting based upon? Isn’t that what we want our kids to learn and experience and live and give away most?

May our homes be Gospel environments where confession and reconciliation and restoration and growth reside.

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  1. Pingback: 3 reasons why being families who welcome confession and generously forgive is so important. | parenting SENT kids

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